I Married a Man With Terminal Cancer—And We Lived a Beautiful Love Story
They say you can’t help falling in love with someone, like we really don’t have a choice, which may be true. But the real love story happens after the falling, when our feet hit the ground and we are...
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How To Help Your Children if Your Spouse Dies
When one parent dies, the child left behind is almost not helpable at first. How do I know a child whose parent dies is almost not helpable? Because it happened to me when I was a child. I lived it. It...
View ArticleGrief Gave Me the Courage To Start Saying No
I have a hard time saying no. I say yes to things because I think I should. I say yes because saying no gives me anxiety. I say yes to avoid conflict or because everyone else is saying it. Why is such...
View ArticleAfter Their Dad Died, Kids Repurpose His Old T-shirts In the Sweetest Way
My son hasn’t said much or talked much since his father’s death a couple of months ago. The counselor said he’s at the age where he will be closed off. He may be angry or cranky at times, likely for no...
View ArticleI’m His Widow, But I’m So Much More Than That
Apparently, it’s National Widow’s Day. May 3. There’s a day for everything now, to sandwich widows between National Eat a Doughnut Day and Dress Your Dog up as a Cartoon Character Day (that has to be a...
View ArticleTo the Single Mom Who Feels Forgotten At Church
“There’s no place for me,” I pointed out to the church staff member who was manning the small group sign-up table. I had walked down the long table of groups, desperate to find a place for a...
View ArticleIt’s OK To Pray For Your Future Husband As You Mourn the One In Heaven
“Don’t worry, you’ll find another dad for your kids, you’re young,” an older widow told me a week after my 34-year-old husband died. Those words didn’t even register because I didn’t want another dad...
View ArticleI’m Parenting Alone, But I Can’t Be Both Mom and Dad To My Kids
I have heard a lot from single moms and dads, widowed or otherwise, that now they “have to be the mom AND the dad.” While practically, I totally get that, I find I can’t burden myself further with that...
View ArticleSurviving the Weight of Grief—Because I Must
It’s been a long time since I wore three-inch heels. They sit in my closet, beautifully shiny and begging me to go out. The thing is, I’m perpetually sad, and going out won’t change that. But I’m tired...
View ArticleWe Do Each Day, and the Days Become Our Life
Living in DC means taking cabs. My husband, Shawn, and I took plenty of cabs for the 13 years we lived in DC together, and he always loved chatting with the drivers. I remember one time when we were...
View ArticleHow My Daughter Helped me Survive my Husband’s Sudden Death
My daughter was 10 when the unthinkable happened. On March 30, 2017, her father died following what was supposed to be a fairly routine procedure. When Natalie walked in the door of our home the...
View ArticleWhat If Tonight Was Your Last Chance To Have Sex With Your Husband?
“The last time I can remember us being intimate was when she was conceived . . . and I just realized that was our very last time . . . ever,” I swallowed the lump that rose in my throat as I said those...
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